It's over, and you know it's over. They've gone completely cold, and the pain in your heart just won't stop. You can't focus, have no appetite, and want to cry all the time. But what if you knew that it was possible to get your ex back using the Law of Attraction?
I'm not saying this will work in every case, and in many cases you're better off just letting your ex go--but even if so, the process of letting them go is the same as the first step of getting them back, so you might as well read on.
The first and most necessary step to get your ex back using the Law of Attraction is to stop contacting them. Don't call, don't text, don't slide into their DMs, don't go places where you know they're going to be.
Call your friends. Cry, get drunk, put your ex's face on a dartboard, do whatever you need to do, but don't contact your ex!!
If you just can't keep yourself from reaching out, then you're reacting out of your emotions of heartbreak, and whatever you end up doing is going to bring you back more heartbreak.
So don't contact your ex. There will be a time to do that later, but not now.
I would wait at least two weeks to contact them, unless they contact you first, or unless you were the one to end the relationship.
And if you ended it, then are you sure you want them back again? Take a few days to sort through your emotions before you do anything. In the quiet time, the right answer will come to you.
During this period of time when you are not contacting your ex, it can be tempting to throw yourself into work, overeat, drink a lot, or get in bed with someone else to numb the pain.
This can be useful for a limited amount of time (no more than 48 hours, and I don't recommend the rebound fling at all but I know some of you are going to do it anyway), but if you do it for too long it will distance you from the unprocessed negative emotions of the breakup...
...Which means those emotions will still be hanging out in the subconscious mind, waiting to attract even more heartbreak to you.
So what can you do? A lot of things!
Guided Meditation for Healing Broken Hearts (Removing Negative Attachments) - by Lina Grace
Sleep Hypnosis to Forget Your Ex and Move On From Heartbreak - by John Moyer
At some point, you will start to be able to feel positive emotions again. And maybe by this time your ex will have already contacted you. If they have, then you can definitely reply back to them; keep it light and positive and don't give them too much information about what you're doing now.
You may have also received some guidance from your internal wisdom regarding things you were doing in the relationship that you should stop doing, or things you were not doing that you should do. If so, then definitely follow this guidance.
And by now you should know whether or not you truly want to get your ex back. If you do, then proceed. And if you don't, you can still do this visualization exercise, but visualize a new person instead of your ex.
This is from the book "Manifesting Love" by Lanie Stevens. I highly recommend all of her books especially if you're a cis/straight woman. But this meditation will work for anyone:
Close your eyes and take a few deep, cleansing breaths and with every out breath say the word "relax." Visualize the wonderful life you desire to live with your mate by your side. You don't have to see the picture of his face but rather focus on the details of his love, commitment, and faithfulness. The traits that are truly important to you and what they represent. Feel as if he were next to you or at work getting ready to return home. You have the tingly feeling of expectation and excitement because you love to be with him, and he with you. Allow yourself a few minutes to enjoy the feeling of being loved truly and completely!
If you really want to manifest a huge change in your romantic life, then add the element of gratitude to your manifestation meditations.
Every night as you are about to drift off to sleep, call to mind the things you are grateful for about your ex and the relationship you had with them. Whether it's how good it felt to have coffee with them in the morning, the fact that he is a loving father to your children, or simply that she showed you how to open your heart to love after a long period of being closed off, find the things you are grateful for, and focus on them as you are meditating or resting.
I did this in 2020 regarding a man I loved deeply who ended up marrying someone else, and the results were shocking and amazing. No, I didn't attract him back; I don't want him like that anymore. But what happened was that the night I did this meditation, my heart felt whole again, as though I had never met him.
Actually, as though I had never met ANY of the people who'd hurt me in the past.
If you are looking to manifest your ex back using the Law of Attraction, I would definitely include the element of gratitude. Wallace D. Wattles wrote in The Science Of Getting Rich,
"It is easy to understand that the nearer we live to the source of wealth, the more wealth we shall receive; and it is easy also to understand that the soul that is always grateful lives in closer touch with God than the one which never looks to Him in thankful acknowledgment. The more gratefully we fix our minds on the Supreme when good things come to us, the more good things we will receive, and the more rapidly they will come; and the reason simply is that the mental attitude of gratitude draws the mind into closer touch with the source from which the blessings come.
If it is a new thought to you that gratitude brings your whole mind into closer harmony with the creative energies of the universe, consider it well, and you will see that it is true."
If you have followed the steps in this article, then by now, your ex most likely has contacted you. At this point, you should be able to get them back the same way you got them the first time.
A few things to keep in mind:
I hope you got something out of this article, and that you attract and manifest everything your heart desires.
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