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How To Get Your Ex Back With The Law Of Attraction

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It's over, and you know it's over.  They've gone completely cold, and the pain in your heart just won't stop.  You can't focus, have no appetite, and want to cry all the time.  But what if you knew that it was possible to get your ex back using the Law of Attraction?

I'm not saying this will work in every case, and in many cases you're better off just letting your ex go--but even if so, the process of letting them go is the same as the first step of getting them back, so you might as well read on.

Don't Contact Them!!!!

The first and most necessary step to get your ex back using the Law of Attraction is to stop contacting them.  Don't call, don't text, don't slide into their DMs, don't go places where you know they're going to be.

Just don't.

If you do contact them, you're trying to get them back via physical reality, and that's not going to work.  If you are going to get them back, it has to be done through spiritual reality.

So do literally anything except contacting that person.

Call your friends.  Cry, get drunk, put your ex's face on a dartboard, do whatever you need to do, but don't contact your ex!!

(Don't sleep with someone else while you're doing this, though - unless you've already decided that you DON'T want your ex back.)

If you just can't keep yourself from reaching out, then you're reacting in physical reality out of your emotions of heartbreak, and whatever you end up doing is going to bring you back more heartbreak.

So don't contact your ex.  There will be a time to do that later, but not now.  

I would wait at least two weeks to contact them, unless they contact you first, or unless you were the one to end the relationship.

And if you ended it, then are you sure you want them back again?  Take a few days to sort through your emotions before you do anything.  In the quiet time, the right answer will come to you.

How To Heal Your Broken Heart

During this period of time when you are not contacting your ex, it can be tempting to throw yourself into work, overeat, drink a lot, or get in bed with someone else to numb the pain.

This can be useful for a limited amount of time (no more than 48 hours, and I don't recommend the rebound fling at all but I know some of you are going to do it anyway), but if you do it for too long it will distance you from the unprocessed negative emotions of the breakup...

...Which means those emotions will still be hanging out in the subconscious mind, waiting to attract even more heartbreak to you.

So what can you do?  A lot of things!

  • Meditate. (I'll include some guided meditation links below)
  • Journal.  Take some time where you can be completely by yourself, and write down EVERYTHING you feel until you begin to feel different--even if it takes days.  If you allow yourself to actually feel all the emotions, even though it feels terrible in the moment, you will feel better afterwards.  You will not die, I promise.
  • Work out.  Go for a run, lift weights, get out in nature, climb a mountain.  Physical exercise will also help move the emotional energy, and you will feel better.  (If working out makes you angry or makes you cry, do it anyway, but give yourself plenty of breaks if the emotions get to be too much.)

I put together a short video re: emotional healing; check this out as well.

Guided Meditations To Heal A Broken Heart

Guided Meditation for Healing Broken Hearts (Removing Negative Attachments) - by Lina Grace

Sleep Hypnosis to Forget Your Ex and Move On From Heartbreak - by John Moyer

Attracting Your Ex Back

At some point, you will start to be able to feel positive emotions again.  And maybe by this time your ex will have already contacted you.  If they have, then you can definitely reply back to them; keep it light and positive and don't give them too much information about what you're doing now.

You may have also received some guidance from your internal wisdom regarding things you were doing in the relationship that you should stop doing, or things you were not doing that you should do.  If so, then definitely follow this guidance.

And by now you should know whether or not you truly want to get your ex back.  If you do, then proceed.  And if you don't, you can still do this visualization exercise, but visualize a new person instead of your ex.

This is from the book "Manifesting Love" by Lanie Stevens.  

Close your eyes and take a few deep, cleansing breaths and with every out breath say the word "relax."  Visualize the wonderful life you desire to live with your mate by your side.  You don't have to see the picture of his face but rather focus on the details of his love, commitment, and faithfulness. The traits that are truly important to you and what they represent.  Feel as if he were next to you or at work getting ready to return home.  You have the tingly feeling of expectation and excitement because you love to be with him, and he with you.  Allow yourself a few minutes to enjoy the feeling of being loved truly and completely!

How To Supercharge Your Manifestation And Get Your Ex Back Faster

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If you really want to manifest a huge change in your romantic life, then add the element of gratitude to your manifestation meditations.

Every night as you are about to drift off to sleep, call to mind the things you are grateful for about your ex and the relationship you had with them.  Whether it's how good it felt to have coffee with them in the morning, the fact that he is a loving father to your children, or simply that she showed you how to open your heart to love after a long period of being closed off, find the things you are grateful for, and focus on them as you are meditating or resting.

I did this in 2020 regarding someone I loved deeply who also betrayed me deeply.  The results were shocking and amazing.  The night I did this meditation, my heart felt whole again, as though I had never met him.  

Actually, as though I had never met ANY of the people who'd hurt me in the past.

And, later I also manifested him back, only in a safer position in my life, as a friend, and received a truly loving soulmate connection with someone else.

If you are looking to manifest your ex back using the Law of Attraction, I would definitely include the element of gratitude.  Wallace D. Wattles wrote in The Science Of Getting Rich,

"It is easy to understand that the nearer we live to the source of wealth, the more wealth we shall receive; and it is easy also to understand that the soul that is always grateful lives in closer touch with God than the one which never looks to Him in thankful acknowledgment. The more gratefully we fix our minds on the Supreme when good things come to us, the more good things we will receive, and the more rapidly they will come; and the reason simply is that the mental attitude of gratitude draws the mind into closer touch with the source from which the blessings come.

If it is a new thought to you that gratitude brings your whole mind into closer harmony with the creative energies of the universe, consider it well, and you will see that it is true."

Another Guided Meditation To Manifest Your Ex Back With The Law Of Attraction

What Next?

If you have followed the steps in this article, then by now, your ex most likely has contacted you.  At this point, you should be able to get them back the same way you got them the first time.

OR - quite possibly - you've met someone new who can be an even better partner to you.

A few things to keep in mind:

  1. Don't stop doing your meditations!  You were able to attract your ex back or to attract a loving relationship, in large part because you have done the work of healing and transforming your own mind.  Don't lose that progress and fall back into the patterns you were living in before the breakup.
  2. Listen to your internal guidance.  This is especially necessary if there were issues in the relationship that caused repeated arguments and hurt feelings.  I have found that others' advice doesn't always fill the need, and my own instincts are certainly wrong more often than right.  However, if I ask the question, get quiet, and listen to my higher self, then I always get an answer that solves the problem.  (Now listening to and obeying that answer, that's another story.  But it makes life SO much easier that it's 100% worth doing.)
  3. Keep making time for YOU.  Especially if you were the kind of person who falls off the planet to everyone else whenever you are in a relationship, stop doing that.  Make sure you make time for yourself and your own interests.  You'll be more attractive to your partner, but more importantly, you will be happier and more balanced.
  4. Get help if you need it.  If you have a friend or older relative who is wise in the ways of relationships, seek their advice and follow it.  If you need more in-depth guidance, there are many excellent dating and relationship coaches out there; find one who you resonate with, and use their programs.  

I hope you got something out of this article, and that you attract and manifest everything your heart desires.



If you don't yet have access to internal guidance, this is the first step towards receiving it.